I'm busy. Between marathon training, building two businesses and spending time with my husband, I don't have much free time.
But am I spending my time in the best way?
I can count on one hand the number of times this year I've spent one-on-one time with close friends. Other than rides to and from the airport, I haven't seen my sister--who lives less than five miles from my house--since late January. When she asked if I could have lunch this Friday, I looked at my calendar. Not only could I not have lunch this Friday, but any Friday this month. Or dinner for the next three weeks.
Yes, I'm busy. And I work 80 hour weeks. I run 40+ miles a week. But it's MY time, and mine alone to schedule. Work should come a very distanct second to close friends and family.
We live in a society of urgency, immediacy, instant gratification and open access. It's very easy to book up every available hour in a day to accommodate someone else's schedule and neglect your own priorities. Just because you can respond immediately doesn't mean you should. That's why I turn off my Blackberry at night and am no longer ruled by my inbox. But it's time to apply that same principal to my calendar.
So, from now on, Thursday nights are sacred. I'll be hanging with my sister, enjoying a little 30 Rock, wine and girl time. Happily offline and out of touch.