While I've never had the illusion of privacy on social networks, I realized recently that my Facebook page is out of control. While I do use the term "friend" liberally, I'm not quite sure how my Facebook friend count swelled to more than 1,100 earlier this week.
Okay, maybe I do. Like my friend Gini wrote in her piece about Social Media Boundaries, I'm nice. I want people to like me. I can't say no. And most of all, I like people, from my childhood best friend to the person I met last week at the coffee shop. And I really believe in the potential of these connections, large and small. For not only friendship, but partnership, collaboration, mentoring, knowledge. In fact, many people I only had chance encounters in with life pre-Facebook have become some of my closet friends and most loyal clients.
But I'm reconsidering my Facebook "open door" policy, especially now that I've become more visible in the community. It's not that I have anything to hide--I like to think people connect with me and hire me because of my personality, so I don't mind talking about how I hate mornings, enjoy my evening wine and get the occasion blues. But I DO mind friend requests from people I've never met or interacted with, endless invitations to join Mafia Wars or 50 different fan pages and countless status updates about your child's potty training activities. But most of all, I just want Facebook to be what it used to be for me--a place to engage, to connect, to build lasting relationships with quality people.
So, I defriended about 100 people today. And it was quite liberating. And if you made the cut--congrats!